Excellent, Bill. #1 son needs his own passions. Our kids don't necessarily want to stand in our shadow. They want something that they can call their own and do well at. Your son sees you so far up in the karate that he can never be where you are (at least in his mind).
The second factor is that a child usually learns better from someone other than a parent. Often they equate correction of form or whatever with being reprimanded and they see that as failure on their part: if you are correcting me, I am doing something wrong. Kids hate to be wrong in front of a parent. They may see that as disappointment from you and that is eqaully hard on them: to let a parent down. Teenagers hate to be embarassed or singled out. They are so sensitive and at that age, are seeking success in some way, and acceptance in any aspect of their lives at this point.
I have taught your son and it is much easier for me, I think. He responds better with me because I am not 'Dad'. He seems to be more objective with me or another person in the dojo, that isn't Dad. The personal part is removed.
I am very proud of your boy, as I am sure you are.
Great job to both of you!
Vicki
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Tom Faigle
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Congrat
Glasheen Sensei,
Congrats on the fine accomplishments of your son and yourself (for being a great dad)! Funny how kids are. My son (who you know) is still at the stage that he wants to be a lot like his dad. Thankfully I think I have the good sense and wisdom learned from you and others that I meet, to help him also learn some things on his own. For instance, when he was down on Karate, I didn't push him too hard. Just enough to keep his interested and show him some new things. Plus having friends like Nestor and Naomi doesn't hurt!
Anyway, I haven't posted much lately. So I thought I'd jump in.
Oh yea. I have a bone to pick with you. It seems that somewhere along the line you and some of my grad school professors sent some subliminal messages to me! So to emulate you and them, I've decided to go back to school and work on a real degree, the Masters wasn't enough. SO first told me I had to wait a year, but she's since let me go back. So I started in January, and will continue on the road of education. Hopefully in a few years, I'll figure out the PhD thing and then have to look for a new challenge.
Anyway, congrats again. And as always thanks for the words of wisdom and example. And I won't hold the UVa thing agaist you! Go Hokies!
Tom
Congrats on the fine accomplishments of your son and yourself (for being a great dad)! Funny how kids are. My son (who you know) is still at the stage that he wants to be a lot like his dad. Thankfully I think I have the good sense and wisdom learned from you and others that I meet, to help him also learn some things on his own. For instance, when he was down on Karate, I didn't push him too hard. Just enough to keep his interested and show him some new things. Plus having friends like Nestor and Naomi doesn't hurt!
Anyway, I haven't posted much lately. So I thought I'd jump in.
Oh yea. I have a bone to pick with you. It seems that somewhere along the line you and some of my grad school professors sent some subliminal messages to me! So to emulate you and them, I've decided to go back to school and work on a real degree, the Masters wasn't enough. SO first told me I had to wait a year, but she's since let me go back. So I started in January, and will continue on the road of education. Hopefully in a few years, I'll figure out the PhD thing and then have to look for a new challenge.
Anyway, congrats again. And as always thanks for the words of wisdom and example. And I won't hold the UVa thing agaist you!
Go Hokies!Tom
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Bill Glasheen
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Hey, you can hold my U.Va. colors against me any day of the week. 
But seriously... Great for you, Tom. Keep up the high achievement, and enjoy being a dad.
This reminds me of something I recently heard. Kathryn of the U.Va. Uechi club (I'll keep her last name private) recently finished her Ph.D. And she did this while being the mom of two kids. We salute her, and U.Va. is lucky to have another nursing school professor with the letters behind her name.
- Bill
But seriously... Great for you, Tom. Keep up the high achievement, and enjoy being a dad.
This reminds me of something I recently heard. Kathryn of the U.Va. Uechi club (I'll keep her last name private) recently finished her Ph.D. And she did this while being the mom of two kids. We salute her, and U.Va. is lucky to have another nursing school professor with the letters behind her name.
- Bill
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Bill Glasheen
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The Season Ends
The final day of Number 1 son's season started inauspiciously enough with the principal, going over what number 1 son (7th grade) needs to do to keep things up academically. And it's all those little things that we know we need to do in the dojo/playing field, at home, at work, in life, etc.
But...
Yes, folks, last match also finished with a pin. He missed getting it in the first period by a second and a judge's opinion. But he got it within seconds of the start of the second period.
Final record... Lost first match of the season (and his life) 6-4. Won the remaining 5 matches by pin.
And the head varsity wrestling coach of the school is his advisor. And his math teacher. And is now on his butt to get his grades up because...
- Bill
P.S. And I think he's beginning to get convinced now that those years of on-again, off-again Uechi classes just maybe... just might have helped.
But...
Yes, folks, last match also finished with a pin. He missed getting it in the first period by a second and a judge's opinion. But he got it within seconds of the start of the second period.
Final record... Lost first match of the season (and his life) 6-4. Won the remaining 5 matches by pin.
And the head varsity wrestling coach of the school is his advisor. And his math teacher. And is now on his butt to get his grades up because...
- Bill
P.S. And I think he's beginning to get convinced now that those years of on-again, off-again Uechi classes just maybe... just might have helped.
