I guess to some extent this reminds me of taking physics or organic chemistry.
In both those subjects, you have books that need to be read. You maybe have lectures to go to. But you don't really learn either of those subjects without first reading the material, and then working lots and lots of problems. Then there is doing experiments. Lots of them. Only with the subsequent steps does the mind assimilate the material.
Been there, done that.
Same goes for any "style" of martial arts. Thinking along traditional lines (with styles other than say hapkido), you have forms. And then you have partner work. You don't really get a feeling for and assimilate the forms until you do the partner work.
And more still... On the random act of violence that Ray posted, I talk about the details of stances in a style (even well-executed "natural" stances) and what that body language projects to others. I talk about eye contact in a style (glare in the eyes, with fast hands...). I talk about flinch responses embedded within style postures and movements. I talk about facing vs. turning away from someone who means you harm. I talk about lines of force, the chase instinct, human inhibitions to violence, and how all that relates to the stances and movements that I teach in a style. And I don't just tell people; I first ask them why they think we do certain things. I'm trying to get ownership in the ideas so they start feeling and doing - to effect.
You haven't taken Organic Chemistry (and you don't know it) until you've worked many problems, done some labs, ask questions of the instructor, etc. And you haven't done a "style" of martial art until you bring the concepts into the arena of violence and of self-defense.
And I mean more than the "duel" paradigm that most people are fixated on. We spend time doing "barroom brawl" in my school so people learn how to victimize (as a pack) and alternatively how not to be victimized. We talk about things like the force continuum - from posture to verbal to hand-to-hand to weapon to dealing with pack assaults.
I don't get into the "booga booga" stuff of scaring people. Everyone has their pedagogical style I suppose. That's just not me. And I also don't endorse humiliating people into thinking they don't know poo... but I do so better listen to me. I believe in building people to be independent thinkers and discoverers. I give them permission to make mistakes (or better... to evolve) as they learn. I believe in creating a martial community where all contribute and I'm a mere facilitator. I believe learning never ends.
All those things are reasons why I sometimes challenge people's statements and thinking. I don't have all the answers; when I do, I'll be sure to let you know.

But sometimes knowing all the right answers isn't the thing. It's knowing all the right questions so that the path is clear.
Making a style "work" against (name your martial expression)? That's what it's all about. In my opinion you aren't "doing" the style unless on a regular basis you present it in any number of martial* contexts.
- Bill
* unadulterated violence, the street, a "real" attack, knife, gun, a gang, opponent of doom, combat, etc.