So I learned to keep my anger in check and wait till they went to bed.......
Then the fun and games would begin.
I still can wait and get even, it's my preferred method.
As far as conditioning the hand, I just put up a makiwara in my backyard.
Beautiful cedar cut sloping to 3/4" on top from the base.
I recommend everyone have one.
If I get mad and run out in my backyard to hit it, by the time I got there I imagine I would feel better.
I dislocated my pinky a few years ago and had to go to a hand specialist in Boston. The nurse startled me by talking about different styles to the point where I asked where she trained. She said she didn't, but she got in a half dozen martial artists with broken hands a week!! She had learned the lingo as it were.
F.
This topic usually deals with the fact that women tend to wear their fingernails longer than men and,hence, cannot form a fist without jabbing their palms with their nails. Also, Women tend to view their hands as softer than men's,with some exceptions, of course. Women are more apt to choose a frying pan, roller pin, carving knife, etc. when trying to hit someone or throw dishes,etc. the stereotypical response found in a lot of comic strips years ago. 
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