How can you tell?
Vicki
Soul mates?
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Soul mates?
Women and men are always looking for that elusisive, one in a million 'soul mate'. Do soul mates really exist?
How can you tell?
Vicki
How can you tell?
Vicki
Yes I believe that soul-mates exist, if defined as a person who perfectly complements your own feelings needs and desires.
However, I think there can be many people who can fit that description for a given person, so although they may be one in a million, there are many ones in many millions.
I think the early stages of new love tend to make everyone think they've found their soul-mate, but I believe that it's only later into long-term relationship, looking back, that you really realize you've found a soul mate.
This is different, very different from the notion that "there's only one person on the Earth for me".
If that were true then you wouldn't see the overwhelming majority of long-term happy relationships between couples of the same locale.
Statistically, how could that be possible: that your soul-mate happens to live in the same country/state/county/city/neighbourhood?
Or marrying a childhhod sweetheart?
Conversely, if you are a quality person in a population of jerks and losers, (m/f), then you won't find a soulmate among them.
Which is not bad, because the gene pool demands diversity...so it's good to travel, I guess!
NM
However, I think there can be many people who can fit that description for a given person, so although they may be one in a million, there are many ones in many millions.
I think the early stages of new love tend to make everyone think they've found their soul-mate, but I believe that it's only later into long-term relationship, looking back, that you really realize you've found a soul mate.
This is different, very different from the notion that "there's only one person on the Earth for me".
If that were true then you wouldn't see the overwhelming majority of long-term happy relationships between couples of the same locale.
Statistically, how could that be possible: that your soul-mate happens to live in the same country/state/county/city/neighbourhood?
Or marrying a childhhod sweetheart?
Conversely, if you are a quality person in a population of jerks and losers, (m/f), then you won't find a soulmate among them.
Which is not bad, because the gene pool demands diversity...so it's good to travel, I guess!
NM
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Hopeless romantics or fruitcakes,
Penny for yoru thoughts,
2 cents for your posts,
Here goes,
Living in Boston, meeting my "one in a million 'soul mate'" over the internet and later in person several more times over the course of the following year and a half, then marrying, people wanted to know if I was a hopeless romantic or just nuts.
We wed on July 4, 1999, and moved to LA shortly thereafter. We enjoy each other, compliment each others strengths and interests and have developed shared interests (neither of us ever thought we would grow to become lakers fans - me, cuz I was a die hard celtics fan and her cuz she was not a basketball fan). She developed her interest in pro B-Ball while working on a web news division of NBC TV LA. Although she only had the job only a few months, the best part was that now she loves basketball finals as much as I do.
I am sure that for every success story like mine there are at least one, if not more cases where there was not a happy ending. I feel lucky most of the time, but I probably could have just as easily found such happiness on the other side of town, but knowing what I know now, Im quite happy with our relationship.
ATH
2 cents for your posts,
Here goes,
Living in Boston, meeting my "one in a million 'soul mate'" over the internet and later in person several more times over the course of the following year and a half, then marrying, people wanted to know if I was a hopeless romantic or just nuts.
We wed on July 4, 1999, and moved to LA shortly thereafter. We enjoy each other, compliment each others strengths and interests and have developed shared interests (neither of us ever thought we would grow to become lakers fans - me, cuz I was a die hard celtics fan and her cuz she was not a basketball fan). She developed her interest in pro B-Ball while working on a web news division of NBC TV LA. Although she only had the job only a few months, the best part was that now she loves basketball finals as much as I do.
I am sure that for every success story like mine there are at least one, if not more cases where there was not a happy ending. I feel lucky most of the time, but I probably could have just as easily found such happiness on the other side of town, but knowing what I know now, Im quite happy with our relationship.
ATH
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ya know- not a lot of people agree with me- or understand what I eman- but-
yeah there are soul mates-
mostly after all the foo foo at the begining of a relationship- it's about "making the decision" to love. Your soul mate makes that easier. I found mine 2000 miles away from where I live and actualy "on the internet" (everybody gasp!) so we talked our way through the foo foo.
You can know at first sight- you can know after years of being together- you can also never know. But a real relationship takes work- and it means loving your partner when they are at their worst- driving you the most crazy and doing every single thing that bugs you the most all at once. It's about loving their faults- and wanting those faults to be driving you crazy- more- than being without the person who has them. Cause who doesn't.
Don't get hurt- don't hurt anyone else- and "love- anyway"
(-respect-)
that's what I think-
yeah there are soul mates-
mostly after all the foo foo at the begining of a relationship- it's about "making the decision" to love. Your soul mate makes that easier. I found mine 2000 miles away from where I live and actualy "on the internet" (everybody gasp!) so we talked our way through the foo foo.
You can know at first sight- you can know after years of being together- you can also never know. But a real relationship takes work- and it means loving your partner when they are at their worst- driving you the most crazy and doing every single thing that bugs you the most all at once. It's about loving their faults- and wanting those faults to be driving you crazy- more- than being without the person who has them. Cause who doesn't.
Don't get hurt- don't hurt anyone else- and "love- anyway"
(-respect-)
that's what I think-
